PLAYERS’ FIELD

The dialogue between 2 friends went like like this:

Friend A: So how long you been with your bird (girlfriend) for?

Friend B: It will be 7 years in April.

Friend A: Wow! There’s no getting out of that one now.

The drop of the last line and even more so, its delivery, got Friend B and I in stitches. We laughed uncontrollably for about 10 minutes with the occasional grin for the next hour whenever our eyes met.

I find this so hilarious mainly because Friend B’s mindset reflects how a lot of us think. His response made marriage sound like an archaic term that was last used by cave men. It was totally out the question. For some of us, getting into a relationship is like a game of tennis. 3 straight sets and its over. We’ve been there done it, why would we want to play the same game with the same person incessantly? Especially, when there are loads of other contenders who will undoubtedly offer variety, the very spice of life or in this case, the game.

This got me asking questions. What happened in between reading and buying into the idea of Cinderella living happily ever after, and now? Is it just guys who are commitment-phobic or does it go both ways? Survey time (too much time on my hands .. i know :).

Yesterday, I posed 4 questions to 12 young professionals (6 female, 6 male) in the heart of London city.

Are you seeing anyone?
Is it serious?
How long for?
Do you see yourself with this person for the long term?

The data I got back was not very shocking. Girls were more likely to say that they were in relationships in which they were very happy and saw going for the long haul, however, the guys were almost never in any and one of the only two guys seeing someone was sure it was going nowhere. The girls came across much more optimistic. Did I tell you anything you didn’t already know? I didn’t think so.

I am going to let the jury get this this one. What do I know? Lol.

Have a great month.